Was your family the one that always had the new car, new pool, new bikes or new boat? Then you probably have what I call a "spending disposition". This is not necessarily a bad thing. You are the type of person that keeps our economy going. Your impulses can be bad if you cannot control your "spend impulse" even when you don't have enough money. One result is a lot of credit card debt and another is a looming financial meltdown.
Another family legacy is the "hoarding disposition". This tendency is bred by a tendency to talk about money as something to be kept, controlled and tracked to the penny. "Money doesn't grow on trees" and "We can't afford that" are common phrases heard in this type of home. A family doesn't have to be poor to have a hoarder profile. A family of any income level can feel like they don't ever have enough for what they want to do.
Both spenders and hoarders are reticent to put their behaviors under the microscope of a budget analysis because they might see something that would force them to change. Most people don't like change but it is even harder for someone with family-bred behavioral tendencies. So what we need to do is to change how we think and talk about money.
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The current solution to what we might call "budget trepidation" is to call a budget a spending plan. This way we can think about the process as giving us the freedom to spend wisely, not restrict our spending painfully. And this is where we begin - at our spending. It is quite impossible to start a spending plan anywhere else of course but it is in tracking our spending that we not only see how much we spend and where we spend it, but also notice what our spending hang-ups are. What I mean by "spending hang-ups" is that none of us is so unaware that we don't know where our money goes; we all have an idea where we can cut back - we just don't want too.
So begin by writing down every dollar you spend for a month. YES - EVERY DOLLAR. Then review your check book for the past year and see what yearly expenses you have - insurance premiums, vacations, Christmas spending etc... Divide all annual expenses by 12 and add your monthly expenses to them.
Now before we compare this monthly spending amount to your monthly income we must do one more thing - determine what we are not spending our money on that we should. This has to do with our financial goals. Setting financial goals is really the only thing that can keep us from over- or under-spending. Nobody can shame us into spending less (or more) if we have our own agenda guiding our financial ship. Listed below are some areas in which goals are needed:
- Retirement (start with the end in mind)
- Kids education (not everyone should save for this but you may want to)
- Housing (first house or vacation house)
- Lifestyle (what luxuries don't you want to live without)
Next is the time of reckoning. Do you spend less than you save? If yes-Whoo Hoo! If not then we have to look at your options. The first option is to make more money. Don't let those bad budget nightmares fool you into thinking your only option is cut back so much that it hurts. If you can work more hours, sell an asset, start a home based business or even shift around your spending to save on taxes. If that doesn't work try to cut back some AND make more money.
Once you get your income and spending balanced it is time to think about actually forming your spending plan to stay there. More on that next time....